Don’t Quit

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Every parent wants their child to be successful and smart. Right?

A person’s natural level of intelligence is not really something one can control, kind of like who your parents are or your race. You get what you get, at least until we figure out how to create perfection via genetics. In the meantime, we’re left to make the best of what we have.

In America, new parents begin early setting their children up for success by getting their children ready for school. We encourage them to teach colors, numbers, etc. There are bookoodles of learning apps and television shows aimed here.

While those academic things are important, they are not the single greatest factor in determining whether or not your child will be successful. The experts always tell us the single greatest predictor of success is whether a child is persistent or not. And…how well he/she can delay gratification.

Please take a moment and ask yourself, “Is my child learning persistence and delayed gratification while ‘learning’ in a virtual play world?”

I placed the word learning in quotes because I’m doubtful they’re learning much real-world information. More helpful to their success and well-rounded development would be things such as eye contact with adults, sharing, dealing with other children, not interrupting others, and handling frustration and anger appropriately. They are not learning those things on a tablet or glued to PBS. Watching a TV show about handling anger isn’t the same thing as having your sister break your favorite toy and not hitting her or breaking her toy. That’s real world vs. the virtual world.

You may believe your child is learning persistence because they spend sooo much time on that tablet ‘learning’. Watch them closely for about thirty minutes. See how long they actually work on one skill, such as learning the letter ‘A’. What they’re likely doing is flitting from one task to another like a butterfly, so they’re never bored or unsuccessful for long.  While there are age differences to factor in, it is never normal for young children (younger than 10) to be sedentary for very long. This is not normal and is not healthy. See my earlier post on self-control and blowing off steam.

Here is a helpful idea to teach persistence and delayed gratification. Find a real-life role model. When Tim Tebow was young, he already wanted to play football. So his mother found him a role model–Danny Wuerffel. Both were examples of young Christian men who displayed talent paired with exemplary persistence. You can do something like that, as well.

When it comes to your child’s success as a Christian, they must learn persistence and delayed gratification. The Christian life is certainly not a bed of roses. It is filled with hills and valleys. I look to God as the best example for younger children. Is there a better example of never relenting, never ceasing, never failing persistence than God’s love for us? He never quits on us. Never.

You want your children to be successful in life, so do I. While I can’t do anything about your or your child’s level of intelligence, I can share with you the key ingredient to success–it is persistence.

I’ll end with this quote:

“Success comes in a lot of ways, but it doesn’t come with money and it doesn’t come with fame. It comes from having a meaning in your life, doing what you love and being passionate about what you do. That’s having a life of success. When you have the ability to do what you love, love what you do and have the ability to impact people. That’s having a life of success. That’s what having a life of meaning is.” – Tim Tebow

Would love to hear your thoughts on this post. Please comment below.

Love y’all,

Ginny

P.S. Final thoughts:

  1. Here’s the link to my children’s song “Giddy Up”. It’s about persistence/perseverance.
  2. July newsletter coming soon. Have you signed up yet? This month I’m sharing thoughts on a mom’s most important job PLUS many great book recommendations for you and your children. And, you really don’t want to miss the boots I found on Pinterest.

They Need A Gatekeeper

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Last week I focused on the Golden Rule. This week we’ll do a review of the biblical instruction to be kind. Our memory verse is “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32.

While our godless culture does not promote the authority of God as our creator, it does try to teach us to be kind.  They tell us to stop bullying or say nice things to each other. But…how’s that working?

If you take a cursory view of TV, movies, or video games you will not get the impression you’re being sold kindness in words and deeds.

If you take a brief listen (and, that’s about all I can take) of many of today’s pop or hip hop songs, yeah…no kindness there.

Social media apps? Don’t get me started on the absolute destructiveness of these.

The cultural gods preach from behind their glass-walled houses or from their stages of power about how awful our culture is. While at the same time, doing everything within their power to take God out of it.

Do I expect this to change? No.

What I expect to change is you. You are the change agent, the gatekeeper,  and you have power. Decide now, you’re going to take a different course.

Begin at the beginning and teach your children they are loved by their Creator God. He placed them here and wants the best for them. When they understand each of us is equal and special in God’s eyes, it will be easier for them to resist seeing themselves as better or higher or greater. It becomes more natural to apply the Golden Rule.

Need a helpful chart? Here you go>>>7 DAYS AND 7 WAYS CHART

Need some children’s songs to help teach compassion? Here’s a link>>>

The culture is against you. Do not wait for that to change before you change how you raise your children. Teach them to be kind with their actions and words. Model it right in your own home. Hold them to a higher standard of behavior.

Final homework for you, dear mom or dad:

Write down your overarching goal for your child. I’ll help you get started by sharing mine. My overall goal for my sons was “to raise godly men who were capable of supporting a family and building a stable home for their children.”

When you form the goal, it helps distill your course of action.  For example, if your goal is similar to mine, then how would playing baseball on Sundays help you achieve that goal? Or, would it be better to attend church and do some other type of sport?

If you’ve read this far, I’m assuming you aren’t happy with the culture either. Welcome. You’ve found others who are with you on the journey and will support you and encourage you to stay strong.

God has appointed you the gatekeeper. It’s up to you what gets inside the fence where your children are.

The wolves of the culture are prowling. God’s ways are best to defeat them.

Love y’all,

Ginny

P.S. What’s your greatest fear for your children? What’s your greatest desire for them? Drop a comment below and let’s get this conversation started.