Children Need Chores

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“Does your child pick up her toys when asked?” I waited.

The young mom looked bewildered as she pondered her answer. Continue reading “Children Need Chores”

Hear Ye, Hear Ye!

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Before our last presidential election, many of us prayed (and continue to pray) for the unseen to become seen. Well God has answered and continues to answer, those prayers.

Now I pray, and I ask you to join me, for the fortitude to keep my eyes on the poisonous revelations and to not shy away from holding the light steady as we march the guilty to their just punishments.

I pray for us to not lose hope in America and for us to turn our attention back to our founding principles which were all built on God and His truths.

I pray for wisdom and peace in dealing with those I disagree with, sometimes vehemently so.

I ask for eyes to see what God wants me to do and to accept what action He gives me.

I ask for perseverance to stay the course when the rewards or blue ribbons don’t come.

I pray for discernment with whom I can work and with whom I can’t.

I pray God, let the cleansing begin with me.

Please join me for the next #40daysofprayerforAmerica

If you feel led, comment below if you are participating.

Also, please share on all of your social media platforms and use the #40daysofprayerforAmerica  and #riseup hashtags.

Let’s get this prayer chain trending!

Love y’all,

Ginny

 

 

Houston? We have a problem.

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The cultural handwringing continues.

Our president doesn’t tell the truth. Our justice department isn’t telling the truth. Our church leadership isn’t telling the truth. Our news media isn’t telling the truth.

What’s a parent to do?

Let’s ask ourselves these questions:

  • Do I tell the truth ALL the time?
  • Or, do I shade the truth to my best advantage?

Our children are inundated with lies and this will continue throughout their entire lives. Social media and our advanced technologies have only magnified this fact. It is impossible to tell truth from fiction in the virtual world.

That is one essential danger of allowing your children to inhabit the virtual world. They need to stay grounded in reality where it is necessary to face, and learn to deal with, the imperfections of the world.

God knows the world is broken and He knows we’re broken. However, does He say, “Go ahead and act like the world?”  No.

Does He prefer we live in our make-believe creations?

No. I don’t think so.

He calls us to stay engaged in the real world where people lie, cheat, steal, and kill each other. A place no one really prefers to be, but it is the place we humans, without God, have created.

Now, we humans, thinking ourselves so intelligent, have discovered a way to escape this awful place we have created. It’s called the internet.

Houston? We have a problem.

Before you despair and leave me to check Facebook, here’s some hope:

  • Pray over your own conduct with regard to honesty
  • Begin to improve in this area (little by little)
  • Refrain from pointing fingers at the lies of others, without first acknowledging your own failures in this area
  • Hold your children to a high standard of honesty (you know they’ll falter, we all do, but God still keeps the standard high)
  • Be the moral gatekeeper in your house

Yes, our culture is rotten. Everyone is dishonest and self-seeking. It’s called sin. It is what Man truly is, rotten and self-seeking.

Help your children learn the truth about God and His standards of behavior. Teach them about sin and how we are all guilty of it. Help them discover grace and let them see you offer it to others. Dealing with the reality of our world, with godly character, will help them deal with all the disappointments that will come their way.

Do you have a successful parent tip to share or a story we may enjoy? Please comment below. Others need encouragement.

Love y’all,

Ginny

P.S. Write this verse on an index card and post it on your refrigerator. You and your children can memorize it together.

“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.” Psalm 34:13

 

 

 

They Need A Gatekeeper

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Last week I focused on the Golden Rule. This week we’ll do a review of the biblical instruction to be kind. Our memory verse is “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32.

While our godless culture does not promote the authority of God as our creator, it does try to teach us to be kind.  They tell us to stop bullying or say nice things to each other. But…how’s that working?

If you take a cursory view of TV, movies, or video games you will not get the impression you’re being sold kindness in words and deeds.

If you take a brief listen (and, that’s about all I can take) of many of today’s pop or hip hop songs, yeah…no kindness there.

Social media apps? Don’t get me started on the absolute destructiveness of these.

The cultural gods preach from behind their glass-walled houses or from their stages of power about how awful our culture is. While at the same time, doing everything within their power to take God out of it.

Do I expect this to change? No.

What I expect to change is you. You are the change agent, the gatekeeper,  and you have power. Decide now, you’re going to take a different course.

Begin at the beginning and teach your children they are loved by their Creator God. He placed them here and wants the best for them. When they understand each of us is equal and special in God’s eyes, it will be easier for them to resist seeing themselves as better or higher or greater. It becomes more natural to apply the Golden Rule.

Need a helpful chart? Here you go>>>7 DAYS AND 7 WAYS CHART

Need some children’s songs to help teach compassion? Here’s a link>>>

The culture is against you. Do not wait for that to change before you change how you raise your children. Teach them to be kind with their actions and words. Model it right in your own home. Hold them to a higher standard of behavior.

Final homework for you, dear mom or dad:

Write down your overarching goal for your child. I’ll help you get started by sharing mine. My overall goal for my sons was “to raise godly men who were capable of supporting a family and building a stable home for their children.”

When you form the goal, it helps distill your course of action.  For example, if your goal is similar to mine, then how would playing baseball on Sundays help you achieve that goal? Or, would it be better to attend church and do some other type of sport?

If you’ve read this far, I’m assuming you aren’t happy with the culture either. Welcome. You’ve found others who are with you on the journey and will support you and encourage you to stay strong.

God has appointed you the gatekeeper. It’s up to you what gets inside the fence where your children are.

The wolves of the culture are prowling. God’s ways are best to defeat them.

Love y’all,

Ginny

P.S. What’s your greatest fear for your children? What’s your greatest desire for them? Drop a comment below and let’s get this conversation started.

 

Bring Back the Golden Rule

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Summer has finally arrived! The children are free of homework and so are you. Yay!!!

But, it won’t be long before your children are whining, “We’re bored.” They’ll tire of swimming, running around all day in swimsuits or pajamas, and watching TV.

So what’s a mom to do? You’ve come to the right place. I want to encourage you to take the next seven or so weeks and teach your children the most important thing you are to teach them–how to be a good person.

The world tells us, no…pressures us, to get our children ready. Ready for school by learning colors, shapes, and letters before they even register. Ready for sports and potential scholarships by signing them up for pee wee ball, swim teams, or basketball. Start early or you’ll miss out we’re told.

Here’s a question for you: while they’re learning those other skills, who teaches them to be a good person? A person who is honest and trustworthy, one who persists through adversity, one who controls their mouth and bodies, one who can be kind and treat others as they want to be treated, one who is brave?

Will the world teach them these virtues? The overworked and underpaid daycare teachers? The overworked and underpaid school teachers? The coaches? The Disney Channel or PBS?

No. Many may try, but let’s get real here…they aren’t paid to do that. They are paid for academic or athletic performance. They are in the business of teaching about fantasies or global warming. They may care but they are not responsible for teaching godly morals.

Teaching godly morals to your children is your job. And, it may be your most important one. Agree?

If you do, let’s start this summer. Don’t get anxious ’cause I’ve developed a chart and some songs to help.

Download the >>7 DAYS AND 7 WAYS CHART

Here’s the link for songs

This week, let’s work on teaching the Golden Rule. Remember it?

It may be old, but it’s still true,

treat other people like you want them to treat you

 (lyric from The Golden Rule song)

No matter what your children achieve in life, whether they become an All American, a plumber, or the head of a major corporation, you and all of us want them to be a good person. Good, so they don’t lose their standing or fine name and good, so they contribute to a better community and our overall society.

This is God’s charge to you. You are to “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6

There is no one to delegate to and no app to do it for you. It takes work and consistent performance on your part to model what you desire for them to copy.

Before you throw up your hands, think about this…what do you truly wish for your children? For them to make lots of money and be successful (whatever that means) or do you want them to be good and decent at whatever they do in life?

When you watch the news, you probably ask yourself this question, “What’s wrong?” We have children killing each other, we have teachers cheating on test scores, we have leaders skimming profits for themselves, and we have the world winking and, in effect, telling our children it’s okay.

Well, we know it isn’t. You can’t do anything about what others do, but you can teach your children the right ways. No one else will.

This week, join me in bringing back the Golden Rule. It’s one of God’s ways. Make sure you practice it and your children do, too.

God’s ways are best today and always.

Love y’all,

Ginny.

P.S. I’d love your comments on how this week goes. Join me on social media, too!

 

 

Face the Fear

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In his first inaugural address to the nation in 1933, Franklin D. Roosevelt said, “This great Nation will endure as it has endured, will revive and will prosper. So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”

About all any of us recall of his speech was the infamous quote, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” But, it is so easy to fear the fear. There’s even a medical term for it–phobophobia. This is the fear of the internal sensations associated with fear, the tingliness, the panic, the floaty and out-of-body sensations which are so unpleasant.

I’ve experienced fear of the fear and can tell you without reservation, it is real. However, I can also testify to you the power of facing the fear and using God’s words to defeat it.

We are told in the Ephesians 6:17:

“Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

The word of God, the Scriptures, are the weapon to use against fear. Say to the spirit of fear, the devil, “You are a liar! I have nothing to fear for God is stronger than you.”

You will have to say it over and over and over. The devil is a persistent enemy and must be faced with confidence each and every time.

Whatever you are fearing, even if it is fear itself, choose to believe God is stronger and use His words to combat and overcome the lying words of the devil, those words he whispers to you, such as “You’re not good enough.”

My prayer for you this week is you begin the process of following God’s ways when it comes to doing battle with fear.

Here’s a wonderful song you may not have heard.

Remember words have extreme power–both nice ones and hurtful ones. The devil, yes he is real, only tells you the hurtful ones. Decide today and tomorrow, to only listen and believe the ones God tells you: you are beautiful, you are loved, you are forgiven, you need me.

Love y’all and know God’s ways are best, today and always!

Ginny

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God Rested. Why aren’t you?

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Welcome to our mini-series on fear, anxiety, and control. Last week’s post was entitled Remember Follow the Leader? Go back and read it, if you’d like.

In last week’s post, I wrote about how I had to learn to follow God’s plans and be willing to put aside my own ideas of how things needed to go. We reviewed how smart the ducklings are who follow their mother so they stay safe. We need to be as smart as they are and follow our leader–God. He is our creator and He knows best.

One thing I had to learn during my time of panic attacks and over scheduling was how to say no. No is such a small word, but I had such a difficult time saying it.

Before God revealed to me why I couldn’t seem to say no, I felt pretty good about how much I could handle. You’ve heard it said, “if you want something done, ask a busy person.” I took pride in how much I could get done. I’m a list maker and a lover of checking things off my list.

Our culture has made us so connected via technology, we can get even more done. We’re never really clocked out at work. We’re never really out of touch because we live with our phone attached to us. We even get anxious if it isn’t. I wrote in Put Up A Fence how we need to fence off our personal lives from the web and to decrease our interest in other people’s lives.

Yes, I know we can’t completely disconnect from our fast-paced culture. But, we can control our schedule and say no to some things.  Let’s review what God has to say about rest. Sometimes to find the truth, one has to go back to the beginning. So, we’ll review Genesis 2:2

“By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work.”

God, the creator of the universe, found it wise to rest. He even commanded us in Exodus 20: 9

“Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not work…”

Why would God rest? Did He need to? Or, did He pattern for us what He knew would be best for our physical, mental, and spiritual health?

Does it matter? Not to me. Here’s what I know:

He rested, He commanded us to rest and I do much better when I rest.

All things in creation have a season and I learned not all activities needed to occur in the same season. For example, when my children were involved in band and tennis, both requiring a lot of driving on my part, that wasn’t the correct season for me to be president of the neighborhood watch. That could occur in another season of life.

This week look at your schedule and take control of it. Pray over every item and ask God what you need to say no to. I encourage you to learn to embrace the power of saying no–it is very freeing.

I’m praying for you this week.

Love y’all,

Ginny

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